it becomes evident that maybe God is not at their foremost thoughts during times of transition, change, and challenge.
Sometimes people get in fear, doubting that God really can come through for them. Entangled with bitterness, resentments, and other diversions from God consciousness, they find themselves stagnated by cross attitudes and less than honorable ways of achieving their means. Anyone and anything becomes expendable to the belief that they are the only one that can make what they want a reality. God isn't even a distant thought for such a stressed and overtaxed perspective. This perspective becomes evident in their attitude, demeanor and interaction with others.
As a Christian....what is the way to effectively minister to a person of such demeanor? Sarcastic, bitter, even sadistic...how do you deflect the negative, and position yourself for forward, Christ centered, thinking when confronted with a whirlwind of negativity?... Here are a few ways I believe can help the believer to overcome the stress of their encounter, lie of giving in to these kind of perspectives, and empowering positive change in a stressed person's life to will make things better:
1. Let no corrupt communication come out of your mouth. Don't go negative just because someone else is in that zone. Let the peace of God rule your heart and mind.
Ephesians 4:29King James Version (KJV)
29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
2. Remember where you came from.
You didn't get where you are by yourself, God brought you there and it is God that will continue to lead you.
3. Be natural, pray knowing that God hears your prayers. You don't have to learn to tap dance to get someone to like you...some things just aren't about you at all....
4. Remember your purpose:
This is what I think is a healthier behavioral approach in addressing a person that tries to make a mockery of you because of their own angry and defiant projections..
2 Things about this fourth point:
1." Don't ask me to pull a rabbit out of my hat." You are not here to do tricks for a negative, angry person.. To love them in Christ and point them to him through your actions is your only charge. Partner with God in how to do this effectively. The wise counsel of those skilled in the word can help you work through your best approach.
2. Don't buy into or accept definitively a fabrication designed only to justify their own rebellion. Often the delusion of the thought "there is no hope." causes people to lash out in ways that aren't true and lack moral code. Tell yourself..."Don't make me to be something that I am not to appease your own rejection of the values I incorporate into my lifestyle. Your lies will not save you from fairness and decency. There is a civil world. God commands the blessing on me irregardless of your attempts to make me a partaker of your dissatisfaction."
5. Lead them to helpful resources that may be available to them if the opportunity rises but keep your distance and just pray for them otherwise. Remember that your hand is not the only hand that God is using to reach that person. God still loves them too. So hold your position in Christ and do not err in the faith.
Peace be with your spirit.
Written by Calvin L. Smith, MA, LPC,
Christian Family & Relationship Counselor
Calvin L. Smith, MA, LPC
Calvin is a licensed Christian Counselor. He received his first masters degree in Christian Counseling from Oral Roberts University.
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