Don't Play with a Woman's Emotions:
It is important as a man to consider this. Respecting a woman from the point of meeting her to the point of deciding to take things to the next level is paramount in determining how your experiences with her will go from that point. If you move too fast, you can compromise the opportunity to get to know her and her to get to know you. You set the platform for your development as partners by the way you engage one another. This said, I have found that it is really important to be aware of your perceived needs and how they may be compelling you to engage her without regarding how your actions may be interpreted by her. Having some level of foresight when approaching a woman could very well assist you in influencing how the situation may play out. In other words, if you know that you are not serious about commitment and relationship......
it is better to be honest about it with yourself and to communicate that with a woman rather than convincing her that you are the "dream" she has been waiting for only be another disappointment in her life. Disappointments have consequences.
Ladies....The Bible says:
Proverbs 21:8-9Amplified Bible (AMP)
The way of the guilty is [exceedingly] crooked,
But as for the pure, his conduct is upright.
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop [on the flat roof, exposed to the weather] Than in a house shared with a quarrelsome (contentious) woman.
There are some situations you can facilitate by the way you engage a woman. Many situations have a cause and an effect. Though you are not in control of all of the factors that bring a situation into play, you are in control of your actions. Men, taking personal responsibility for your actions and being accountable for yourself as well as her benefit from the start can have lasting benefits in the long run. You either stop situations from playing out in a negative way because of the intentions of either person involved or you redirect them to more positive outcomes by being more thoughtful regarding your interactions. You are a teacher in your own right from the beginning of your encounter with each other straight through to every single meeting you have thereafter. In either case, the emotional, mental, and physical makeup of both a woman or man are the ingredients through which a satisfying relationship can be fostered or discouraged.
Calvin L. Smith, MA, LPC
Calvin is a licensed Christian Counselor. He received his first masters degree in Christian Counseling from Oral Roberts University.
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