Men in Mid-life crisis can make drastic decisions that cause their whole family to suffer from these decisions. In fact many aspects of life can suffer from lack of clarity and direction regarding the management of one's life, whether man or woman. The effects of this kind of instability can reach into work, social life, religious, and even more intrinsic motivations. One's perspective can effect the choices which either facilitate growth and stability or stifle it. The Bible discusses indecision and split perspectives as double mindedness. Biblical reference states:
James 1:4-8King James Version (KJV)4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. 6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. 7 For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord. 8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.
Patience is not a wreckless and without application. It is God directed trust and reliance on his word as the stable truth that will manifest outcomes consistent with the action applied to the truth of God's word. Equally a man may benefit from considering that it's not the style of the cane, the type of car you drive, or the amount of money you have that qualifies you to be acknowledged as a man. But rather character and other intrinsic values help to facilitate the manifestation of perspectives that material possession alone cannot secure.
Mark 8:36King James Version (KJV)
36 For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
Matthew 6:19-21King James Version (KJV)19 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: 20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: 21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
Do you struggle with any of these?
Here are some signs for a man that may be in mid-life crisisl:
1. Your anger is unchecked for long periods of time without getting to resolution.
2. Your fears of being obsolete are difficult to manage
3. Your anxiety and worry are present because you feel there is too much to manage and not enough time.
4. Family is complaining about you not being around,
5. Friends have become distant.
6. Children have become hard to redirect and don't listen.
7. Spouse has expressed her need for more attention.
8. Demands of the job seem intensified.
9. Now more than ever your direction seems unclear about your next steps in life should be..
Any one of these is a good enough reason to have someone to talk with..
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"Matthew 6:33King James Version (KJV)33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."
Calvin L. Smith, MA, LPC
Calvin is a licensed Christian Counselor. He received his first masters degree in Christian Counseling from Oral Roberts University.
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