Why am I meeting so many people but none of them are turning out to be someone I can spend my life with?

Finding Your Mate
On Dating: Why am I meeting so many people but none of them are turning out to be someone I can spend my life with?

[Answer]
How are you evaluating what's best for your life in your dating selection? What eyes are you looking with? By that I mean that you have your natural attractions to you see physically/materially. For example, How they look, What they have,what they do for a living, the type of friends they have... but there is another kind of sight equally important to consider. This sight can equate to how they treat you. It gives you the ability to hear how they listen to you, care for the things that matter to you, have the insight to help you through things...this kind of sight doesn't ignore your needs to respect yourself. In fact, the only way to see clearly if someone is loving you as that ideal mate is to practice loving yourself first. It is hard to see through blind eyes. Through loving yourself you can both give and know when love is truly being given to you. The mastery of developing self love means developing the filters to understand how love works in fulfilling both your mutual needs respectfully past lustful passions, ideas of materialistic gain, or social influences that encompass only what you see (physically instead of seeing with your soul) about others.
The other things I'd like to mention is that a relationship with God serves a purpose. It not only can give you peace about your existence it can also help you to develop a lens through which to see yourself and see others. This lens can also serve as a point of reference through which to govern how you treat others and yourself. Through this lens a satisfying relationship can be developed in context of your frame of reference as you meet a person of interest. Discovering and maintaining a relationship with a person "equally yoked" (that is really a good fit for you, and you for them) is one of these extraordinary benefits that comes through establishing a relationship with God. He helps us with our self development and readiness for commitment through his principles ..God is more than just for show.
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