It’s More than a Wedding Bouquet.

This is a deep dive into the history of the wedding bouquet and the traditions that shape our thinking about marriage. What are the practical applications that can help marriages to thrive?

Let’s start with a look at the history of the bouquet. Did you know that wedding bouquets were seen as a method to ward off evil spirits from the union? Of course there is another tradition says that the person that catches the bouquet would be the next in line for marriage. This is where our discussion begins.

What you believe influences how you make choices in a relationship. In psychology we have two terms I would like to include in this discussion. They are internal and external locus of control. External locus of control is believing that things happen outside of your control. Internal locus of control is believing that nothing happens beyond your direct efforts. The reality is that a person may find themselves somewhere in the middle between what they can and cannot control. Understanding the difference can assist a person in navigating their expectations for what fosters a mutually sustainable relationship.

Don’t start a relationship with superstition. Start your relationship with reasonable expectations of your partner that are clarified through discussion and corresponding commitment. As easy as that sounds, sometimes there are cognitive distortions, defense mechanisms from prior experiences and other communication barriers that can impede the process of clarification. My relationship skill building class is designed to assist you in acquiring the skills that will help you to successfully nurture your relationship.

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